Love & Respect
The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
By Emerson Eggerichs
Based upon Ephesians 5:33 and extensive biblical and psychological research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs reveals the power of unconditional love and unconditional respect and how husbands and wives can reap the benefits of marriage that God intended.
A Marriage Book with a Difference!
A Revolutionary Message
"I've been married 35 years and have not heard this taught." "This is the key that I have been missing." "A light bulb moment." "You connected all the dots for me." "As a counselor, I have never been so excited about any material." "You're on to something huge here."
A Simple Message
A wife has one driving need -- to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need -- to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy.
When either of these needs isn't met, things get crazy. "Love and Respect" reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
A Message That Works
Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, have already taken the "Love and Respect" message across America and are changing the way couples talk to, think about, and treat each other.
What do you want for your marriage? Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some "Love and Respect."
From the Inside Flap
Discover the Single Greatest Secret to a Successful Marriage
Psychological studies affirm it, and the Bible has been saying it for ages. Cracking the communication code between husband and wife involves understanding one thing: that unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It's the secret to marriage that every couple seeks, and yet few couples ever find.
Today, you and your mate can start fresh with the ground-breaking guidance that Dr. Emerson Eggerichs provides in this book. His revolutionary message, featured on Focus on the Family, is for anyone: in marital crisis...wanting to stay happily married...who's feeling lonely. It's for engaged couples...victims of affairs...pastors and counselors seeking material that can save a marriage.
Using Dr. Eggerichs breakthrough techniques, couples nationwide are achieving a brand-new level of intimacy and learning how to: - stop the Crazy Cycle of conflict - initiate the Energizing Cycle of change - enjoy the Rewarded Cycle of a new passion.
And if you'll take this biblically based counsel to heart, your marriage could be next!
* Hardcover: 324 pages
* Publisher: Thomas Nelson (September 7, 2004)
* Language: English
* ISBN-10: 1591451876
* ISBN-13: 978-1591451877
* Who Is Emerson?
Emerson E. Eggerichs was born in Peoria, Illinois on April 30, 1951. He met his wife, Sarah, while attending Wheaton College.
Emerson and Sarah have 3 adult children, Jonathan, David, and Joy.
* Emerson and Love and Respect
Excited and burdened about male and female communication, Emerson launched the Love and Respect Conferences in August 1999 to serve husbands and wives.
* Sarah and Emerson are convinced that a truth hidden in plain sight for 2000 years can make a difference in every marriage. This truth is found in Ephesians 5:33. Husbands must love their wives and wives must respect their husbands.
Emerson writes, "You may remember how the Beatles sang, 'All you need is love.' I absolutely disagree with that conclusion. Five out of ten marriages today are ending in divorce because love alone is not enough. Yes, love is vital, especially for the wife, but what we have missed is the husband's need for respect. This Love and Respect message is about how the wife can fulfill her need to be loved by giving her husband what he needs -- respect. And the husband can fulfill his need to be respected by giving his wife what she needs -- love. Does this always work? No. But if one is married to a person of good will, I would bet the farm that it would work!"
Emerson received his B.A. in Biblical Studies and an M.A. in Communications from Wheaton College and Graduate school. He was awarded his Masters in Divinity from Dubuque Seminary. Later, he earned his Ph.D. from Michigan State University in Child and Family Ecology. Emerson was the senior pastor of East Lansing Trinity church from 1980 to 1999. He loved the pastorate in this college town with nearly 45,000 students. When he came, the church had 450 in attendance, and when he left over 2000 attended. He oversaw a paid staff of 40. He also initiated a building program, relocating Trinity Church on 70 beautiful acres in the Lansing area. That was completed in the year 2000.
Focus on the Family is sponsoring many of the Love and Respect Conferences across the nation.
The book Love and Respect (The Love She Most Desires / The Respect He Desperately Needs) won two awards in 2005: the Gold Medallion and Retailers Choice.
The Love & Respect book has been selected as the 2007 Book of the
Year for Family Christian Stores."
* My Review:
If you find yourself wanting to better understand the differences between men and women, to discover simple biblical truths to help you with communicating with one another and to seek a powerful breakthrough for your marriage, then I highly recommend "Love & Respect" to you!
I have had the wonderful opportunity of reading Emerson's book Love & Respect, plus watching the DVD series that I absolutely love with my husband. What I like best about the author is the conversational tone he sets from the beginning. You immediately get the idea that many great principles on building a better marriage are being shared with you from the author's personal experiences of his own marriage and numerous sessions as a marriage counselor for twenty years. Emerson talks and shares from his heart. You will laugh and cry while reading along and identify with the characters and situations that you yourself are going through or have been through in your marriage.
Not only will Dr.Emerson Eggerichs show you life long habits and patterns of behavior that cause hurt, frustration and discouragement, what Emerson calls "the crazy cycle" that you and I can relate to but then Emerson offers valuable steps and good communication tools to heal and encourage that open the doors of love and trust again. The golden nuggets of simple solutions that yield great results can be found in Dr.Eggerichs' inspiring book. I am passionate about what Emerson is saying here, to be loved and respected is so powerful, affirming and life changing... 5+ stars!
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